body language secrets

CROSSES AND UNCROSSES LEGS
Women only. When sitting with a skirt on, she’s flashing a bit of thigh to entice you. When sitting with pants on, she is subconsciously doing the same thing. However, when standing, she is probably just be trying to get comfortable or it may indicate she’s excited and ready to go.


DANGLES SHOE ON TOE Women only. When sitting with her legs crossed, she wiggles her heel out of the shoe, then lets the shoe dangle on her toes. Opening up and loosening up to you. It’s a subconscious first step in disrobing.
STEADY HANDS, FEET, LEGS
Stable means relaxed, not reluctant or hesitant. When feeling negative emotions, both men and women fidget, tap or drum something. As mentioned, females are taught to sit still. Consider that when interpreting a woman’s wiggling feet.
LOOSENS ANYTHING
Loosening up to you. It can be unbuttoning, unzipping or untying. A man loosens his tie for the same reason that a women lets her shoe dangle on her toes. It’s symbolic disrobing.
LEANS FORWARD
This simple gesture says all of this: You have my attention. I want to hear what you have to say. I want to see you more clearly. I want to be closer to you. Very powerful and very reliable.
SHE TOUCHES YOU ANY REASON
Touching is possession or to verify what one sees. When she touches you, even “accidentally” she’s interested. Men, keep your hands to yourself until she touches you.
Attention Men! No matter where, when or how a woman touches you, it is a strong signal of interest. Women often “accidentally” touch a man they are interested in as they make their way to the bar or rest room.
Caution! Women who are Rapo players touch men early and often. Men who touch women before the women touch them are probably manipulators and liars, as mentioned.
HANDS NEVER TOUCH FACE
As mentioned, when someone touches himself above the neck, it usually means he’s lying or he doesn’t believe what you are saying.
FEET FIRMLY ON FLOOR
Feet that are solidly grounded mean the person is taking a stand, is not reluctant or hesitant. However, feet that are not solidly grounded usually mean trouble ahead.
COMING FROM THE SAME PLACE
People who are in different emotional states don’t enjoy talking with each other. For example, if you are bold and confident and I’m nervous, I won’t be able to relax and be pleasant, thus you won’t enjoy talking with me. The End. So, you must appear to be in about the same place as the person you are attempting to court.
Men, if her posture is open, that’s good. Match her posture and remain open as you talk.
If her posture is closed, match her posture, then as you are conversing, gradually open up, one small step at a time. If she doesn’t follow your first few shifts toward openness, stop. She’s not ready or is not interested.
When there are good vibrations between the two of you, adapt you posture to match hers and wait a few more minutes before trying to slowly open up again.
While you are slowly moving from a closed position to an open position, she has time to realize that you are not dangerous and could be interesting.
Only after she has discovered (1) that you are safe and (2) interesting, can she find you attractive.

MOVE FROM CLOSED TO OPEN This series of photos show you what to do if the other person is not in an open posture. Although this example shows a man going first and becoming vulnerable, women can do the same thing.

First adjust your stance so that your posture approximates hers. As you talk, gradually and carefully shift your posture to a more open position, one step at a time. Subconsciously, the other person often follows your lead and “opens up to you” because you made yourself vulnerable first. In the top photo, the man has adopted the same posture as the woman. In the middle photo, he has moved from completely closed to semi-open by uncrossing his arms and putting his hands in his pockets. In the bottom photo, he has become completely vulnerable by putting his hands behind himself. She has mirrored his posture.

When women adopt this position, it causes their breasts to protrude slightly, which commands the man’s attention. Also, when women stand in this position, they appear to be slightly submissive, thus safe.

FROM CLOSED TO OPEN AND BEYOND In this sequence of photos , you can see many signs of interest.

Overall, as the two are talking, the woman moves from a closed posture to an open posture.
Study the photos carefully and you can notice that the man mirrors her actions.
The encounter begins with her arms crossed and with her ankles locked under the chair. As the conversation continues, she unlocks her ankles and puts her feet
flat on the floor, sits up and leans toward the man. Next she uncrosses her arms. Notice that her hands are open and relaxed as she leans even closer.
In the last photo, she is touching herself gently in a sensuous way.
At the end of the first conversation, many subtle and indirect signals have been exchanged. However, during Further Conversations Without Words, the next chapter, more nonverbal signals are exchanged. Some of them will still be subtle. Many will be somewhat obvious. But a few will be blatant!

Conversation Openers

Conversation Openers

If you want to start a relationship, you've got to initiate the dialogue. Here are

some great openers.

 If your special someone is a specialist, ask "How do you…?" or

"What's it like to…?"

 Ask about experiences, like "Have you ever tried to…?" or "Have you

ever gone to…?

Find out what interests your special someone. Give compliments inbetween

conversations. Always stay calm and relaxed. Be curious and

interested. Nod to signify that you're listening. Say, "Wow," "Great," "I see," etc.

The Touch

A simple touch to the body can have a thousand different meanings

depending on how you perceive the power of touch in body language. It is a

basic need to be touched. We definitely need to be stroked and have physical

contact with other people to survive. As we mature, we continue to heed that

need of touching and being touched.

Touch can convey respect and trust, and is also a way to differentiate

power between people.

Touching as an ingredient of body language can be a powerful tool if done

with finesse, with precision, and with accuracy. You must learn the art of touching

in order to send your signals to the other person.

Timing is important, as some people will react negatively if you touch them

too soon or too much. It has to be done at the right time in a suitable way, or the

result would not be one that you expect. Be keen to the circumstances and the

mood.

You can determine the appropriateness of your touch and your ability to

adjust to the circumstances, by how your receiver reacts to it. If the person

seems to lean or get closer to you, you‘ve made the right move. But if the person

seems to back off, this means you did not touch properly, so you have to make

some adjustments.

Knowing If The Apple Of Your Eye Is Interested

Do you want to know if that special someone is interested in you as well?
Let's assume you're a man. You see a gorgeous lady that made your heart beat
faster. Look at her with extreme confidence letting her know you are interested.
Then wait for her reaction. She may be a bit shy to stare back at you, so it's
natural if she shifts her glance. Here's how to find out if she's attracted to you.
 If she looks down and away, she's interested.
 If she looks to the left or right, she's not interested.
Moreover, how will you know if a person is attracted to you just by
observing body signs? A girl, for example, is flirting if she espouses the following
body language:
1. Her lips show the way. She wears that big smile with her teeth
exposed and with a relaxed face. She bites her lips or shows her
tongue, or she licks her lips and touches the front of her teeth.
2. Her eyes show you everything. She looks at you with a deep stare and
her pupils are dilated. She raises her eyebrows seductively and gives
you a wink from a distance, or when she is talking to you. And of
course, the most common one - she blinks her eyes more than usual
and shows you that fluttering eyelashes.
3. She gets herself noticed by the stroking of her hair. She may push her
fingers through her hair, twirl it around her fingers, or throw her hair
back off her shoulders.
4. She shows a little more skin on her clothing. The hem of her skirt goes
up a little further exposing her legs, or she fixes her clothes more than
usual to look a little better.
5. You can tell it from the way she sits. She sits with an open leg or
crosses her legs in a manner where her thighs can be seen. Or her
legs are rubbing against each other or against the leg of the table.
6. Her hands mirror how she feels. She rubs her wrists up and down in a
suggestive manner. She rubs her chin or touches her cheek, and in a
bold way may even unconsciously touch her breasts. She plays with
objects on the table, fondles keys, or rubs a drinking glass in a flirting
manner.
On the contrary, how does a man show his interest in a woman? It’s much
simpler. Maintaining eye contact, smiling frequently, and exhibiting confidence
through his actions are the main ways.

Let Your Body Attract

Do you know why some people seem to have an easier time attracting the
opposite sex? Here's what you can to do in order to catch the eye of your Honey
Bunch.
1. Smile sincerely and frequently. In his article “The Six Don Juan
Commandments of Body Language,” Allen Thompson wrote that
smiling is “The simplest, most obvious, and most powerful of the body
language commandments.” He also mentions that “Smiling conveys,
both instantly and clearly, many wonderful things about yourself.
Smiling demonstrates confidence, friendliness, a positive attitude, a
good mood, and it gives the impression that you're someone who is,
most likely, fun to be with. It's also very difficult to ignore.”
2. Have a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at petty matters. People love to
be with those who can turn any situation into a funny setting.
3. Maintain eye contact. Your eyes are probably the most expressive
parts of your body. When you look at your dear one constantly, you are
expressing your sincere intentions. Eye contact also establishes a
bond between two persons. They would naturally feel more
comfortable in each other’s company.
4. Nod your head. By nodding, you signify your approval and you
encourage the other party to continue talking. You give reassurance
that your loved one is doing ok.
5. Be open, physically. Do not cross your arms across the chest or hold
obstructive objects (such as a food) between the two of you. Put your
hands on your sides (and if possible put your palms up) to convey
openness.

Body Language in Flirting

Male and female courtship signals have been studied, and the basic
conclusions are that these signals are completely unconscious. The more you
consciously understand the signals, the better and more successful you will be
when courting the object of your desire, whether it is the man or woman of your
dreams.
To master the art of successful flirting, you have to feel good about
yourself first. Be confident. Be yourself, or else you will look deceitful or
desperate. Flirting can be utilized in just about anything, not just in attracting the
opposite sex, but also in attaining just about anything you want in your life. This
can be described as good flirting. Good flirting should be done with a precise
understanding of what you really want, coupled with positive sensations.
I have interviewed a number of successful men and women in the field of
network marketing and advertising in their 30s and 40s. Here are their tips on
how you can put good flirting to your advantage:
1. Don’t worry about whether you are making a good impression or not.
Instead, analyze how you can make the other person feel good. By
doing this, you will get the feedback you are expecting. Soon you will
make the connection.
2. Flirting can help you make friends or impress a client if you make
yourself approachable. Put a smile on your face, as it gives you an
aura of being friendly.
3. Remember that you cannot attract people just by sitting or standing like
a statue. There will be instances when you will encounter a person
who gets a little bit too close for comfort feel, or someone who makes
you feel you are already invading privacy. No matter what you do, you
would get a so-called “vacuum” reaction. Tough one, huh? You can
avoid this by using gentle moves and by calibrating the person’s
reactions to you. Be aware of these signals: mouths get larger, the lips
swell, eyes widen, pupils dilate, skin flushes and changes color,
muscles around the mouth move, among others.
4. Be persistent. Flirting works best when you are patient. By being such,
you will have room for improvement if at first you aren’t getting the
results you want. If you fail the first time, do it again the second time,
third time, just keep trying. Try different approaches until you realize
what will really work best for you. If you were rejected, don’t give up.
This goes with the sayings, “To err is human” and “Nobody’s perfect.”
5. This is probably for me the most interesting and somehow funniest tip I
got: “Practice in the mirror, only then can you make it perfect!” This is
especially true in meeting friends and prospects, because flirting may
involve unwanted actions and attention which can put you in the bad
light. You may be spontaneous in your actions, but you can’t guard
yourself if you are already overdoing it, and I supposed you don’t want
to be in that situation. Try practicing with your close friends and ask for
feedback.
6. Make the first move! Opportunities knock only once, so if you want
something or even someone, go for it, now! Let go of your inhibitions.
But remember to apply positive or good flirting. Who knows if the
person you meet at that moment is your gateway towards the
fulfillment of your dreams.

Body Language in Meetings

Body Language in Meetings

Communication occurs constantly in a meeting. Not many people are
involved in speaking, but almost everyone (if not everyone) would exhibit body
language signals that divulge what they are actually feeling inside.
If you are the leader of the meeting, it is important to know if the attendees
are interested in what you are saying, or if they agree with your ideas. Early
detection of boredom or disagreement is crucial in order for you to change your
approach or present a different proposal when necessary.
When you see most of the attendees reclining back in their chairs or just
staring blankly without blinking an eye, it likely means they are not interested in
the topic being discussed. Do not prolong the discussion or do something that
will break the monotony.
When the attendees nod constantly, it means they are agreeing with what
you are saying.
When the attendees cross their arms, touch their nose or mouth, sit back,
and worse, shake their heads, they oppose your ideas. Time to think of some
countermeasures to neutralize the situation.
When an attendee breathes deeply, it probably means that he wants to
interrupt the conversation and express his point of views.
Observe also other body gestures, such as:

•  Changing the intonation of the voice.
•  Frowning.
•  Looking down at the ground
•  Drumming fingers in the table.
•  Exiting the meeting room.

You need to detect the inner feelings of each attendee and bear in mind
how this can affect the reaction of the other attendees. If the topic being
discussed becomes “too hot to handle,” it might be better to re-schedule the
meeting at another time. Some emotional people can exhibit great facial
expressions and body gestures. Recognizing them early in the meeting can
prevent any undesirable emotional outbreak to occur.