CROSSES AND UNCROSSES LEGS
Women only. When sitting with a skirt on, she’s flashing a bit of thigh to entice you. When sitting with pants on, she is subconsciously doing the same thing. However, when standing, she is probably just be trying to get comfortable or it may indicate she’s excited and ready to go.
DANGLES SHOE ON TOE Women only. When sitting with her legs crossed, she wiggles her heel out of the shoe, then lets the shoe dangle on her toes. Opening up and loosening up to you. It’s a subconscious first step in disrobing.
STEADY HANDS, FEET, LEGS
Stable means relaxed, not reluctant or hesitant. When feeling negative emotions, both men and women fidget, tap or drum something. As mentioned, females are taught to sit still. Consider that when interpreting a woman’s wiggling feet.
LOOSENS ANYTHING
Loosening up to you. It can be unbuttoning, unzipping or untying. A man loosens his tie for the same reason that a women lets her shoe dangle on her toes. It’s symbolic disrobing.
LEANS FORWARD
This simple gesture says all of this: You have my attention. I want to hear what you have to say. I want to see you more clearly. I want to be closer to you. Very powerful and very reliable.
SHE TOUCHES YOU ANY REASON
Touching is possession or to verify what one sees. When she touches you, even “accidentally” she’s interested. Men, keep your hands to yourself until she touches you.
Attention Men! No matter where, when or how a woman touches you, it is a strong signal of interest. Women often “accidentally” touch a man they are interested in as they make their way to the bar or rest room.
Caution! Women who are Rapo players touch men early and often. Men who touch women before the women touch them are probably manipulators and liars, as mentioned.
HANDS NEVER TOUCH FACE
As mentioned, when someone touches himself above the neck, it usually means he’s lying or he doesn’t believe what you are saying.
FEET FIRMLY ON FLOOR
Feet that are solidly grounded mean the person is taking a stand, is not reluctant or hesitant. However, feet that are not solidly grounded usually mean trouble ahead.
COMING FROM THE SAME PLACE
People who are in different emotional states don’t enjoy talking with each other. For example, if you are bold and confident and I’m nervous, I won’t be able to relax and be pleasant, thus you won’t enjoy talking with me. The End. So, you must appear to be in about the same place as the person you are attempting to court.
Men, if her posture is open, that’s good. Match her posture and remain open as you talk.
If her posture is closed, match her posture, then as you are conversing, gradually open up, one small step at a time. If she doesn’t follow your first few shifts toward openness, stop. She’s not ready or is not interested.
When there are good vibrations between the two of you, adapt you posture to match hers and wait a few more minutes before trying to slowly open up again.
While you are slowly moving from a closed position to an open position, she has time to realize that you are not dangerous and could be interesting.
Only after she has discovered (1) that you are safe and (2) interesting, can she find you attractive.
MOVE FROM CLOSED TO OPEN This series of photos show you what to do if the other person is not in an open posture. Although this example shows a man going first and becoming vulnerable, women can do the same thing.
First adjust your stance so that your posture approximates hers. As you talk, gradually and carefully shift your posture to a more open position, one step at a time. Subconsciously, the other person often follows your lead and “opens up to you” because you made yourself vulnerable first. In the top photo, the man has adopted the same posture as the woman. In the middle photo, he has moved from completely closed to semi-open by uncrossing his arms and putting his hands in his pockets. In the bottom photo, he has become completely vulnerable by putting his hands behind himself. She has mirrored his posture.
When women adopt this position, it causes their breasts to protrude slightly, which commands the man’s attention. Also, when women stand in this position, they appear to be slightly submissive, thus safe.
FROM CLOSED TO OPEN AND BEYOND In this sequence of photos , you can see many signs of interest.
Overall, as the two are talking, the woman moves from a closed posture to an open posture.Study the photos carefully and you can notice that the man mirrors her actions.
The encounter begins with her arms crossed and with her ankles locked under the chair. As the conversation continues, she unlocks her ankles and puts her feet
flat on the floor, sits up and leans toward the man. Next she uncrosses her arms. Notice that her hands are open and relaxed as she leans even closer.
In the last photo, she is touching herself gently in a sensuous way.
At the end of the first conversation, many subtle and indirect signals have been exchanged. However, during Further Conversations Without Words, the next chapter, more nonverbal signals are exchanged. Some of them will still be subtle. Many will be somewhat obvious. But a few will be blatant!